“People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.”
This is written by a very wise person….and told to me by a very wise woman.
I just had a very important relationship in my life change – a huge change – but, a needed change. It has made me reflect – A reason, A season, or a lifetime?
“When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand . What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.”
Was it a reason? Maybe. He taught me about unconditional love. That I was beautiful. That I was, and am a gift. Something I had problems believing until he came in. He was a godsend in that sense. He taught me to be strong. But was it just for a reason?
“Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.”
Was it for a season? He taught so much about the Red Path – sweat lodges, Native American Sundance, Spirit Beings – so much about the Spiritual Journey that I didn’t know about. He introduced to ways, and people that I had NEVER, ever even dreamed existed until after I met him. I have grown in ways I could never explain to you. He opened my eyes to the magic in the world. The magic…. So was it for a season, or a reason.
“LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your Job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.”
Is it for a lifetime? I believe that it is, but in a different capacity than I thought it to be when it started. He knows me, he loves me unconditionally – he sees me, but it’s not time for him. HE has more to do to grow that he needs to do without me. I love him. I will ALWAYS love him – for his gifts that he has given me, for all that he has taught me, for the beauty that he has shared with me. For teaching me and convincing me that I am beautiful. I will never regret the day we met, the time we have spent together, what we have learned together. I just pray that I have given him gifts also. I see HIS beauty, him -who he is, and the gifts HE has to share with the world.
Were there challenges? Of course. Was it always a bed of roses? Of course not. It was a normal relationship. But, I am choosing to focus on the gift, the blessing of the relationship.
So was it a reason, a season or a lifetime? I believe it was all three. I believe that sometimes in your life, there is someone who fits all three. I am grateful.
This is a bittersweet day for me.
Thank you all for being a part of my life,
whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Paula
